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Preparing Homemakers (for daughters & mothers)

Shannon asked:

How do you think growing up in your family prepared you for being a homemaker? Furthermore, what tips would you offer mothers like myself, who want to be the kind of mother yours was for you?

My mother and I sat down awhile back to reflect upon this very question. This is the list we compiled with just a few ideas of things she emphasized in my training. This resource is usual for mothers but the first half was written originally addressed to daughters with ideas and suggestions on how to use your single years to glorify the Lord while preparing to be homemakers. The tendency I believe is to get too focused on preparing to be married that we lose sight of some valuable skills that can be learned in serving others. If you are a single young lady, please read on as well! It is a high and wonderful calling to prepare little homemakers! Above all, the goal is to prepare daughters that first love Jesus, love the home and His beautiful design for placing us there, but also love to give their single years to serve and bless others!

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Mission of Motherhood: Keeper of the Domain

I am a little behind this week on posting the chapter 9 review from our book study on The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child’s Heart for Eternity, but I did want to share a few encouraging quotes from the chapter. May they inspire you today!

“Home – it’s such a beautiful word! It’s the center of our lives, the place that holds us with invisible strings of love within its walls…Home is a haven from a world that is swimming with challenges and difficulty. It is a school where one learns how precious life is intended to be. It provides the context of learning to know and love my Creator, the beauty of the world he made, and His Word, which guides me. And it is the envirorment where direction and purpose and values are passed from generation to generation, protecting and preserving all that is precious in life.”

This chapter was such an encouragement to me to look above and beyond the daily responsibilities of homemaking to restoring the heart and purpose of it all. Organizing and cleaning have their place, as a messy home is not necessarily a haven, but what is my motivation and ultimate goal?

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Making our House a Home – Decor!

The investment in simple decorations, table runners, cloth napkins and the like can make a house a place of warmth and refreshment for all those who enter. Part of our calling as homemakers is to make our homes that source of oasis for our families but also to extend in hospitality to friends, family, and all whom the Lord might call you to minister to. Developing those creative juices in your homemaking can be so much fun and it also doesn’t have to cost a lot of money! The addition of decor and giving it a little womanly touch can make such a difference.

I have been inspired lately to decorate my house a little with some fall colors.  Jo-Ann Fabrics is a wonderful source of decorations at great prices. Just check out their website and subscribe to their emails. About once a month I get a 50% off coupon as well as notification of sales. Ross stores also have a nice selection of household decor for great prices. I love buying my photo frames there.

I couldn’t believe how delightful it was to freshen up our home with a little love and decor. It made me enjoy being a homemaker that much more! I am not naturally gifted in creativity so it takes a little work, but the more I do it the more enjoyable and easier it gets!

We found the table arrangement pictured above at our local farmer’s market this past Saturday for $8. I added a few candles and table runner that I had on hand, and with the addition of some fun little gourds (which are very cheap at the produce stand), we were set! Gourds and candles alone can make a nice arrangement! I found the best thing is to take a little bit at a time to collect decor and once you have it you can use it again and mix and match, as I often do with my candles. Don’t invest in a huge closet of decor at one time, collect a little here and a little there.

This is a dark picture due to the light coming in, but this is a lovely fall wreath I bought for just $5 at Jo-Ann’s. IT was originally $30, but with the sale and the additional 50% off coupon, it was $5! It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it can definitely freshen up your home!

A fall garland hanging inside another window – a $4 find at Jo-Ann’s!

So have fun becoming a creative homemaker!

For further thoughts on decorating, especially on a budget, check out these posts:

Decorating on A Budget – part 1

Decorating on A Budget – part 2

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Traditions in the Home

“The home should be a haven where family traditions and rituals reassure its residents that life, even with its turmoil and difficulties, is indeed worth the effort. Those traditions that make your family unique will go with you wherever you travel and be the human rock to which you can cling.

“Home should be a source for gathering strength for the challenges of life, a living album for remembering the past and your heritage, an oasis for finding joy to celebrate the present moment, and a reservoir of energy and optimism that enables you to recharge your batteries to go out into the future highways of life.”

~ Dorothy Patterson, A Handbook for Ministers’ Wives

Quoted in Practicing Hospitality by Pat Ennis and Lisa Tatlock, which includes a dedicated chapter on developing hospitality towards your family and cultivating family traditions. Wonderful encouragement! Another great resource is Treasuring God in our Traditions by Noel Piper.
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Mission of Motherhood: You are a life-giver!

Today we continue our book study on The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson with chapter 2: Beautiful by Design. This book has a wealth of encouragement to grant vision and purpose for your role as a mother! Please join us!

Chapter 2 reaffirms the beauty of God’s purpose and design for us as mothers and the home. In our day and age, there is mass confusion, frustration, conflict over the role of a mother. I personally long to have a Biblical understanding of God’s original design. Much of this conflict is a result of the falleness and depravity of the human race.

In Genesis 1:26-27, we read about the creation of man and woman. We see that both men and women were made in the image and likeness of God.  We were made to display His attributes, to reflect His likeness in our work, our leisure, and the purpose of our lives. Sally shares: “Each of us, man and woman, was given the purpose of partnering with God to rule over the world and to make it productive…Each of us is created with a capacity and purpose to be productive and creative in life – according to our drives, gifts, and strengths – and to glorify God as we rule over the specific dominion he has entrusted to us.”

Part of our original greatest privileges in our creation was the important responsibility to bring other human beings into the world. “These offspring were also to know the design of God. In the context of family, they would learn what it meant to be made in the righteous image of their Creator, to subdue the earth for God’s glory, and to populate the earth with their own children, thus producing a godly heritage.”

While women and men were created equal, and they both were assigned the joint task of bearing children and subduing the earth, they were uniquely created different. Eve by the very meaning of her name is a “life-giver” – she was created to bring life into the world! Her unique physical body was particularly designed for such a purpose -He gave her a womb to bear a child, breasts to feed it, a more padded physique suited for cardling babies, and the emotional makeup, with all the right hormones, to be able to nurture and care for her children…According to recent research, he even structured our brains to make it easier for us to handle several tasks at once - as the tasks of caring for a household and small children demand.”

Wow! That is amazing to me! We all, whether we bear children or not, we are created to be life-givers!

“Not every woman will marry. Not every woman will be able to bear children. And yet all women have the God-given capacity to live in ways that beautifully and purposefully express their life-giving feminine design -their helper or cooperative approach to tasks, their ability to multitask, their nesting instincts and creative spirit. A woman’s body was made, in part, to bring life into the world, and that’s a good thing from God’s point of view. However, the common purpose for all woman is to glorify God in whatever circumstances and boundaries of life we find ourselves, trusting him to show us how we can best use our gifts for him.”

Consider…are we being life-givers in our domain or life-takers? Are we sucking life out of our families and friends by our wrong attitudes, pride, bitterness or frustration at where God has placed us or called us to in this season.

With the fall of mankind, recording in Genesis 3:1-6,  Sally points out: “humans no longer reasoned as God reasoned, and they began to make up their own theories about their purpose in life.” Satan sought to attach the foundation of the family, which was designed by God to be the stable foundation of life. Rather than considering how we are created to serve and love one another, a self-centered approach to life results from sin. Children tend to be seen as burdens rather than blessings (Ps. 127),  a monetary expense rather than a gift to be cherished, parents tend to depend upon their children to fulfill their own emotional needs, and children become self-centered little people as a result. We can so easily loose sight of passing on a legacy of righteousness to the next generation as we get caught up in a culture of personal fulfillment.

What a glorious truth that God is not finished with us yet! Even though we may throw aside his original purpose and design, He is beautifully transforming us through the sacrifice of Christ Jesus, that we might walk in newness of life, and take hold again that purpose of being life-givers in all that we do!

What stood out to you in this chapter? Please feel free to share a quote, a prayer, or anything that the Lord has been challenging you with thus far. How can we seek to fulfill God’s purpose of being life-givers rather than life-takers?

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What are you producing?

“Busyness is not godliness. God is not impressed with your production capacity as much as He is concerned that the product of your home – your own children – be chiseled and molded and perfected to the best of your ability. You may tire of this mundane task, but the Lord admonishes you not to grow weary and promises to supply the energy and strength as needed in this all-important task (Isa. 40:28-31). God’s strength is for what He plans for you to do – not stamina for everything you might want to do!”

~Dorothy Patterson, Handbook for Ministers’ Wives

Painting from allposters.com
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Simplifying in the Bedroom

This post is a continuation of my simplifying tips series around the house. The more I think about it, this is more of a series on being able to organize in small spaces! As we live in a small condo, this has been my journey since the beginning of our marriage, as this is our first home! It actually makes things alot easier for me, because I am less tempted to buy stuff and consume because storage space is limited. Other than that, simplifying for us has been for the purpose of enabling us to be more generous for the futherance of the kingdom!

Here are just a few tips that I have found helpful for simplifying in our bedroom.

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Simplifying in the Bathroom

On the counter: toothbrush holder, toothpaste dispenser, soap dispenser – that’s all!

Welcome back for further simplifying tips for every room of your house…last week, we discussed the kitchen, and today, we enter the bathroom! Normally this room is piled high with various body, hair and facial products. I have been there! Items that just make this room look so cluttered. How can you simplify? Preparing for this post got me extra motivated to get more organized in the bathroom – I even pulled out a few items that needed to go! Remember every little baby step you take to simplify your life will open up time to focus on the important things – investing in family and the lives of others!

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Simplifying the Kitchen

While viewing a wedding registry awhile back, I was overwhelmed by the list of so titled “kitchen gadgets” that this couple had on their registry. It was six pages of gadgets! How many gadgets do you really need? The materialistic nature of our society is pulling us in the direction that we need every new and latest invention for every little task. Begin simplifying your kitchen by weeding out the excess gadgets, and not only will your kitchen be cleaner and more organized, you will have less items to manage, maintain and replace!

Today we continue our simplifying series with a few steps towards simplifying and consolidating in the kitchen as the first room of your house, especially since this is where we ladies spend most of our time!

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Simplifying Our Priorities

Jen writes:

How on earth do you find the time to fit it all in? How do you enjoy your family, clean your home, cook such enormously nutritious meals, research everything, blog, etc., etc. I just can’t imagine how you do it without burning out. I can barely keep up with the basics, and I feel stressed ALL THE TIME. Any tips?

Up to this point in our simplifying series (on Wednesdays), we have been discussing several different ways to simplify your lifestyle, in menu planning, in slowing down, in scheduling, and the like. These are helpful tools for me in maintaining peace in my home, but all these things can be done and still result in stress and frustration if we don’t have our priorities in the right place. I have been there! By God’s grace, I have come to realize it all comes done to the question: Amy I walking with the Lord? Did I commune with Him today?

The moment we see stress or frustration coming out we need to search our heart with this question!

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