While reading the Word the other day, the Lord gave me some encouraging insights on the topic of Wife Dressing which we discussed a few weeks ago. Check out part 1 & part 2 if you haven’t already for practical tips and encouragement on serving our husbands in our dress. This is just a little addendum to those posts with some Scriptural encouragement for us all!
Dress for A King
“She makes coverings for herself, her clothing is fine linen and purple.” (Proverbs 31:22)
This really spoke to me as a beautiful example of a godly wife who takes thought to her clothing and appearance. Fine linen and purple were often garments worn in the courts of a king. I don’t believe this is encouraging expensive spending (especially as you balance it with the Scriptures included below), but rather a change of mindset in that this woman was dressing in a manner as if her husband were a king! She acknowledged his leadership role in the home by acting as his queen! What a beautiful picture! Ultimately as well, we are dressing for the true King – King Jesus!
Dress Yourselves with Godly Character
“Strength and dignity are her clothing.” (Proverbs 31:25)
But overall, she knew and all of us must be continually reminded that what is most important to clothe ourselves in as woman is that of godly character. Our husbands will be most served and blessed as they see us radiate the fragrance of Christ, as they witness us putting to death the deeds of our flesh and submitting ourselves to the Spirit of Christ. They will be ultimately served in their roles as husbands and leaders as we submit unto them and rejoice in their progress and accomplishments.
“Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold and pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for a women making a claim to godliness.” (1 Timothy 2:9-10)
There is a proper balance! We must not be overly consumed with the outer that we loose sight of developing inner beauty -that of a meek and quiet spirit. Hense my encouragement to maintain a 10 minute a day appearance check. Serve your husband first and foremost by spending time in the Word of God, by cultivating Christ-likeness, and then make yourself look glorious to your husband by a simple appearance check, maybe a little makeup, but most importantly a smile and the radiance of Christ shining through you!
“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external–braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” (1 Peter 3:1-4)
This passage goes on to remind us of Sarah…the greatest gift we can give our husbands is by actively putting our hope in God, as Sarah demonstrated, and submitting ourselves to our husband’s leadership.
Younger women, you can practice this truth now as well. Cultivate inner beauty and outer beauty will naturally flow!
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)
I love your website…which i have stumbled upon. You are an inspiration & encouragement to me! Thank you for this post…very well written.
Blessings!
I agree with you, taking care of yourself is such a necessity, not only for your spouse, but also your self worth and that reflects to your husband when you feel good about yourself. I know women that don’t bathe or get themselves ready on weekends and I just cringe at how that makes them or their spouse feel. 10 minutes a day is all it takes and that is so very important. Thank you for you insightful encouragement.
Thank you for the encouragement! I am truly in need of this specific encouragement. We are on a very tight budget right now, and I am pregnant with #4 and wanting a few new things to wear that aren’t the same as the past three pregnancies. I have been regularing our local Goodwill and have found some super cute skirts, tops even a couple of maternity dresses! I was amazed. It’s important for us moms to be fresh and in good spirits for our husbands. One way that helps me is like Lindsay says the 10 min mirror check, and having a handful of nice clothes that can mix and match to make you feel attractive to your husband and not look like you’ve been slaving all day, but that you have your home kept as best as the day allows and that you feel fresh and beautiful for when the man comes home. Remember, he’s had a long day too, and will want to come home and spend time with you and kids if it’s a welcoming joyful place to be.
Hi,
Thanks for the post! Your blog is fabulous. I hope the author will also provide a response, but I had to try to give a tidbit to Shellie.
I also have very curly, frizzy hair. Try washing with condishioner only and not every day. Unless you work in a sand pit or something, you hair won’t get dirty in one day to warrant a daily washing. Braid your hair and cover it at night to keep frizzies at bay.
As for clothes, make them as clean and neat a possible. If you can find something a little colorful, all the better. When shopping, don’t worry about the numerical size but buy whatever fits. And if you’re able, try to learn to sew if clothes are hard to come by. Trust me, you can find inexpensive fabric (try the Wal-Mart dollar bin among other choices). And, like the article says, a godly demeanor goes a LONG way no matter the external circumstance. I hope this helps…
I love your website…which i have stumbled upon. You are an inspiration & encouragement to me! Thank you for this post…very well written.
Blessings!
Aside from the obvious, how does one learn to look nice? No matter how hard I try, I cannot tame my frizzy hair or find clothes that fit well. I have an extremely limited income, and with three kids, limited time, also. Thanks!
I like this interpretation! Thanks!!
Connie
PS- Love your blog! Lots of great reading and tips!!
My grandfather once told my mother even if you do not have any money or material possesions make sure that you look nice for your husband. That really spoke to me as a young girl. I always try to make sure that I freshen up about 30 minutes before my husband comes home. I have been trying to teach this to my 3 year old daughter. She will come up to me and remind me that we need to get pretty for daddy. I will admit that it does not always happen, but a little effort can go a long way. Your husband can have the worst day, but when he comes home to a happy, put together wife it can make his day.
Well put Lindsay. I am a lurker who has just fallen in love with your blog. It is so uplifting and inspiring on so many levels. Thank you for putting in the time to post each day. I look forward to reading your blogs.
Kristina
This is good insight from the Lord, Lindsay. Very inspiring post.
Hi Lindsay, I’ve been reading your blog for several weeks and have been encouraged and strengthened in my walk as a woman of God. This series has been especially refreshing and inspiring. Thank you!