Last night, Aaron & I went out on a much needed date night and left a little fussy girl behind (I think she has some more lovely teeth coming in!). I am thankful to have my family close by to leave her with. The advantage of family is they absolutely love taking the grand baby for an evening! I needed it after a taxing day of fussiness with the baby, piano lessons that didn’t go so well, suffering under the disappointment of breaking one of my nice mixing bowls, and preparing dinner in advance that didn’t taste so good (guess what? We’re eating it tonight all the same!).
We have been working through some communication struggles, and significant business changes for Aaron, so there was much to talk about. Even with Aaron working from home, I am amazed how much we need this time away from it all to build our marriage.
Make it a priority!
My point with all this is to say…make a regular habit of date nights! Schedule them in! It is so easy to get caught up in life and forget about investing in the most important relationship in your life (second only to your relationship with the Lord). It doesn’t have to be expensive, but at the same time, I believe it is important to splurge every once in awhile, as we did last night (of course, I must add that you should defer to your own husband’s decisions in this matter). We went to a nice restaurant, enjoyed some excellent food and followed it up by sitting beside the fireplace in the lobby and listen to the performer play some lovely jazz on the piano. It was wonderful and just what I needed! My husband does spoil me so.
The problem is…my frugal side always purks up on such occasions. “We must split a meal, no wine, no appetizers, no desserts! It can’t cost too much!” But this time, I just sat back and enjoyed my husband, and you know what? He thanked me afterwards. He told me he greatly appreciated the fact that I didn’t make a big deal that he got a glass of wine, or that he ordered an appetizer. I was quite shocked and realized how overly concerned I have been over how much we spend on our night out and overlook the fact that we are investing in our marriage; therefore, it is a good cause to put our money towards!
We are going to strive to be more consistent this year. Twice a month is our plan! Schedule it in…it gives you something to look forward to!
Frugal Date Night Ideas
We have taken advantage of most of these ideas in the past with good success!
Restaurant.com - you can get great gift certificates for cheap using this site! If you sign up for their newsletter, you can get regular savings of up to 50-70% more off the gift certificates. Always use a different email address, as they send a lot of promo emails. I normally pay no more than $3 or less for a $25 gift certificate, which is very reasonable in my book.
Happy Hour - I have heard you can get great savings on good food by going out during happy hour (somewhere between 4-6 pm, I believe). We have not done it yet, but my sister-in-law always raves about their success by using this tip! Check out this site and search your area for restaurants that offer happy hour specials.
Take a Walk – This is one of my favorite activities to do with my hubby! Especially on the waterfront where he proposed to me. Always brings back such wonderful memories and is so romantic! Unfortunately, this activity is limited to the summer time around here unless we want to freeze our tails off.
Hiking & Picnic – Another fun idea that we have done is go for a hike and take a picnic lunch with us! I love doing this as well, especially along the beautiful Columbia gorge, where we live.
Candlelight Dinner – I love having fun every once in a while and serve dinner by candlelight. I will pull out the nice champagne glasses and serve sparkling cider, or some refreshing homemade juice. It’s so fun!
Trade Date Nights with another couple – If you don’t have family close by, try trading date nights with another couple. Take turns watching each other’s children.
Any other frugal date night ideas? How have you made date nights a priority?