This post is brought to you by Passionate Homemaking’s Monthly Contributor, Vina Barham.
So at one point in my very short homemaking career, I got this idea in my head that I should learn to bake bread if I was going to be an awesome homemaker. And for a few months, I was baking bread like, a lot. I was also soaking grains and beans and making elaborate meal plans and all that old school coolness.
And then, I stopped. Just like that.
Because somehow, Home-making got in the way of Mothering. Or at least my idea of homemaking. I was slowly wilting in the kitchen and buried under piles of cookbooks for two hours every week trying to figure out our weekly menu, trying so hard to do all the things every good mother should do. I mean, every good mother should at least learn how to bake stuff and have a well-planned schedule of meals, right? Right?
Some of us just thrive and glow in the kitchen. The kinds of mom who are in their element when they are putting something together on the stove, with a planner and a calendar on one hand, a spatula and a rolling pin on the other. You moms rock in your own Julia Child way.
For some of us, it just ain’t so.
Not that we give up trying to learn, because oh how I would love to be THAT mom who makes all our bread from scratch, and have meals that flow seamlessly well. But that requires time, and a whole lot of learning curve. And there’s only so much time and energy that is Given us each day. And sometimes, we have to let go of the Good to make room for what is Good For Us, so that we can offer our Best and focus on the Essential.
- Taking care of ourselves so we have more of us to give in generous loving heaps to our family.
- Practicing the art of loosening up, embracing the mess and playing more with our children.
- Maintaining Our Core Identity so we can offer Genuine parts of ourselves to the people we love.
- Focusing on Growing as a Mother (and a Wife) instead of Perfecting the Art of Homemaking.
- Okay, more practical examples:
- Settling for buying nourishing bread elsewhere for the time being so I can learn the essentials in the kitchen stress-free.
- Forgoing the elaborate menu plans, sticking to the simple recipes I know and slowly, but surely building on them.
I still bake bread on occasion so I can continue to learn how to do it, but I have given myself permission to take that off my essential list, for now. And slowly, I’m learning what needs to make that list, and what needs to be “put on hold” for another time. And bit by bit, taking baby steps and starting small, I will bake the most delicious bread yet in my house. But for now, first things first.